“A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man.”
It is a humble word, but in years past the world has twisted the meaning into something negative and something to cause disruption in relationships. Why is this? Women’s rights? Equality? It could be attributed to many different things. I asked my husband what his definition of submission would be. His answer was, “Putting someone else’s desire or will in front of your own.” I love that the man I married–the man I committed my life to–understands that when I am submissive to him that I am putting his needs before my own. And likewise, he also puts my needs before his own.
I pray that you and your husband feel the same way. Being a submissive wife is a beautiful thing. I have never thought of it as negative, but I have seen it misconstrued in many ways. As a Christian you are not only to be submissive to your husband but most importantly to God. He commands it. James 4:7 says “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” Humbling yourself to our Lord–submitting to him–is putting your faith in Him and fleeing from evil.
There will be people who take advantage of this humbling act. Some people do take advantage of their role as head of the household instead of centering the marriage relationship on what God wants and demands of husbands. 1 Corinthians 7:3 says, “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.” We need to be proactive about this, but moreover we need to trust our husband and have open communication to further strengthen the marriage. When your marriage is centered on Christ, you serve your husband, and, in turn, serve God’s purpose for a strong Christian marriage.
What Does Being Submissive Mean?
Does being submissive mean you don’t get a say? That what your husband says goes? Absolutely not! Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through word and present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any blemish, but holy and blameless.”
Praise God for the Word! Scripture tells us that husbands are to take their role VERY seriously and to be able “present her as a radiant church.” Being a submissive wife is a beautiful, humbling act. As wives, let’s be mindful that our husbands can be under pressure with having this charged to them by our Lord. Encourage your husband. Always let him know that you appreciate him in all that he does for you and your family. Practice being submissive daily and look to the Bible for encouragement and understanding in this matter.
May God bless you and your marriages. Be the wives that God wants you to be according to Ephesians 5:22:
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.”
How can you be an encouragement to your husband?